Do not leave the surgeon who has your surgery scheduled hanging. If you think that you want to change surgeons, please call them the day you change your mind.
Bed wetting should not be an issue as you have no other symptoms of cauda equina syndrome. See this topic on the website, Pain can cause urination changes more frequently than global nerve compression can.
Donald Corenman, MD, DC is a highly-regarded spine surgeon, considered an expert in the area of neck and back pain. Trained as both a Medical Doctor and Doctor of Chiropractic, Dr. Corenman earned academic appointments as Clinical Assistant Professor and Assistant Professor of Orthopaedic Surgery at the University of Colorado Health Sciences Center, and his research on spine surgery and rehabilitation has resulted in the publication of multiple peer-reviewed articles and two books.